Ask the Right Questions First

You have joined a couple of dating services and written a killer profile.

You’ve uploaded a good picture and now you are going to chat with a contact.
What now? How do you start separating those who have real potential and those who don’t have any potential at all?

You need to find out something about who this strange woman/man really is and not just who they want you to believe they are.
It would be nice if women/men wore labels like Gold Digger, Daddy’s girl, or mammy's boy.

but they don’t so it’s up to you to find these things out and you can’t just ask direct questions.

You need to know what mistakes you can avoid making and how to impress this lady/man if you decide you want to do that.

After you are past the initial small talk, ask, "What are the biggest mistakes you have made when dating online".

Listen carefully to there answers, see if they are going to tell you a lot about them selfs and there views on the opposite sex in general.

Next you should ask them, "What do you really think about online dating" Now they will tell you if they have had any bad experiences dating on line and help you to avoid making the same things wrong.

Now for the all-important one….."What caused the break up in your last relationship" If they put all the blame on the other person, you should probably move on to the next prospect. If they take all the blame them self, you should probably do the same,

If the the breakup was by mutual consent or that the relationship just wasn’t right for either of them, you’ve heard the right answer. Move forward but always with caution.

Asking the right questions will give you insight and make you more confident when you meet the person for the first time.

Allison Ward

Find Love and Romance

More Popular Online Dating Activities

A couple of popular online activities are sharing recipes and bidding at auctions, and both of these easily fit well into online dating opportunities, one of the most popular online activities for singles today.

To help many dates get better acquainted online, here’s what potential cyber-dates do.

Sharing Recipes – People get tired talking about the weather, so a popular subject to turn to is food, sharing favorite foods and recipes helps break the ice and even forms friendships over culinary skills – or lack of – and tastes.

Search your favorite search engine for “free recipes” to share, take photos of your culinary creations and share them with your date, too.

Bidding at Auctions – Ebay auctions sell nearly anything and everything! So surf around and enter searches like the dates you were in middle school.

Share cool memorabilia photos of old games and toys from when you were a child or when your parents or grandparents were little; The Dating Game, Oscar Mayer wiener whistles, The Partridge Family Album, Bobby Sherman’s Album, 45’s and more.

Online dating can be an educational and fun experience. So learn more about each other and have fun while you’re at it, take a cyber-stroll down memory lane together and see what’s cookin’.

John Burns

Find Love & Romance

But Does Online Dating Actually Work?

Yes, it does work! But like with everything else, there is a catch.

Millions of singles are joining, or have already joined, Online Dating sites and they can’t all be wrong. So, you ask, what’s the catch?

Finding that one-and-only for you takes time and effort. That’s the catch. You don’t just throw one line in the water and expect a miracle. It isn’t that easy.

There are different Online Dating sites for every possibility. Religious preferences, single men, single women, gays, people who only want “fun” (and you know what I mean by ‘fun’), people seeking marriage, and on and on.

Name anything and I’ll bet there is an Online Dating service to match. So, first you must find an Online Dating site (or sites) that meet your own needs, goals and desires and that will take time.

Obviously, you wouldn’t want to join a site that caters to Jews if you are Catholic and that matters to you.

You have to write a great profile and post a picture. The important thing here is to be honest. Being funny and original will make your profile stand out among thousands.

The picture needs to be as flattering as possible but it needs to reflect the real you, too. All of these things take more time.

You must make the first move by contacting prospects by email and you can’t use a “form” email.

Each contact needs to be different and special. You need to make reference to their profiles and not just drool over their picture. You will need to answer emails that you receive and do so promptly… but not TOO promptly.

This takes time, too.

In other words, you are going to have to work at Online Dating. Online Dating requires a commitment of your time, effort and energy.


Allison Ward

Find love and romance

Minimize The Risks Associated With Online Dating

As you probably accept by now, Online Dating is an efficient and fun way to meet new and interesting people.

However, Online Dating can be risky business and you need to protect yourself.

Most people you meet on line are exactly who they say they are but there are the perverts and sexual predators so you should use some good judgment while getting to know the stranger you have just met.

Risk Management #1:

• Don’t Give Out Any Personal Information until You Have Gotten to Know the Person.

• Never give your real name, address or phone number until you are sure the person you are talking to is who they say they are.

• Perverts, sexual predators and just plain garden variety weirdoes come in both sexes, all ages and in all shapes and sizes.

• It’s truly better to be safe than sorry.

Risk Management #2:

• Take Your Time Getting to Know the Other Person.

• You will see a picture sooner or later of him or her, don’t be fooled by outward appearances, the real person is the one you need to get to know, honest and faithful are qualities that will last but beautiful and handsome will fade with time.

• You don’t have to spend 24/7 with a person to find out who they are, you do need to listen to what he or she is saying carefully.

• Once you think you know this person well enough to exchange personal information, don’t stop there.

• The Internet is a wonderful place where you can learn just about anything and everything about anybody and in just a few minutes.

Risk Management #3:

• Do your Homework!

• Check them out,there is an old saying among journalists, “Your mother says she loves you but check it out.”

• That is good advice for Online Dating and for “real world” dating too, don’t take everything the other person tells you at face value.

• Online Dating Mistakes You Should Avoid Doing!

• Luck doesn’t necessarily have much to do with making a great relationship when you are dating online.

• There are lots of things that you can do right and even more that you can do wrong.

• If you really want your online friendship to turn into a real and romantic relationship, you need to follow some guidelines.

Online Dating Mistake #1: Profile Discrepancy?

• The first one is that if you are going to post a picture of yourself or send a picture to an online friend, make it a picture of you and not some really beautiful/handsome friend.

• Sooner or later you might meet this person and the truth will come out anyway. So be honest. Don’t describe yourself as thin and 5’3” or really ‘buff” and 6’1” unless that is true.

Online Dating Mistake #2: Not Being Punctual!

• When you make a date to chat online or talk on the phone, be there and be there on time.

• You need to put forth the effort to keep the relationship going, too. If you don’t, the other person will soon lose interest and move on.
  

Online Dating Mistake #3: Detouring the Conversation into Timbaktu!

• Make your conversations interesting and realistic. Don’t just joke around and make “cute” remarks.

• Find interests you have in common like music or movies. You’ll need to get around to talking about goals and values.
  Pay attention. You can learn a lot about a person’s views on love, respect and commitment.

Online Dating Mistake #4: Expecting Perfection from Your Partner

• Don’t expect to find Mr. or Miss PERFECT. They do not exist.

• All humans are flawed, the point is to find ones with flaws you can accept, It’s the little quirks and idiosyncrasies that make each of us different and interesting.

Online Dating Mistake #5: Rushing Your Relationship on a Freight Train

• Rushing into any relationship is always a mistake, take your time.

• Get to know the person well enough that you feel comfortable and at ease when talking to them and really hate to see a conversation end.

• Then, and only then, will you be ready to meet them in person and take your relationship to another level, you need to be the best of friends before you can be in love.

Author

John Burns
Find Love & Romance

Growing Online Dating Relationships

Growing Online Dating Relationships

Just like regular real-world relationships, online relationships need tending, to grow over time.

Here are some quick growing tips.

1. Take time and make time.
Does your online date get in touch with you regularly? Do you do the same?Neglecting virtual meetings can be considered abuse or neglect, so treat each other’s time with respect.
If it’s lacking, might mean time to move on.

2. Communication needs to “feel” right for both of you.If one of you is too pushy about meeting, for instance, that can give off bad vibes.So don’t rush. Take time to learn more about each other and develop trust.

3. Respect each others privacy.Don’t share personal email addresses or digital photos online, for example, if your online date sent you the information in confidence.

4. Share special online and offline fun times.
Online – send greeting cards, links to favorite places to upload digital photos of your favorite pet, download music and video clips, post on favorite forums of interest.
Offline- if you’re exchanging addresses or post office boxes, send print greeting cards and postcards, small items from your area (like a key chain with your state bird).

Tend your online relationship. Water it with care and over time it can sprout and grow.

Allison Ward

Find Love & Romance