However, Online Dating can be risky business and you need to protect yourself.
Most people you meet on line are exactly who they say they are but there are the perverts and sexual predators so you should use some good judgment while getting to know the stranger you have just met.Risk Management #1:
- Don’t Give Out Any Personal Information until You Have Gotten to Know the Person.
- Never give your real name, address or phone number until you are sure the person you are talking to is who they say they are.
- Perverts, sexual predators and just plain garden variety weirdoes come in both sexes, all ages and in all shapes and sizes.
- It’s truly better to be safe than sorry.
- Take Your Time Getting to Know the Other Person.
- You will see a picture sooner or later of him or her, don’t be fooled by outward appearances, the real person is the one you need to get to know, honest and faithful are qualities that will last but beautiful and handsome will fade with time.
- You don’t have to spend 24/7 with a person to find out who they are, you do need to listen to what he or she is saying carefully.
- Once you think you know this person well enough to exchange personal information, don’t stop there.
- The Internet is a wonderful place where you can learn just about anything and everything about anybody and in just a few minutes.
Risk Management #3:
- Do your Homework!
- Check them out,there is an old saying among journalists, “Your mother says she loves you but check it out.”
- That is good advice for Online Dating and for “real world” dating too, don’t take everything the other person tells you at face value.
- Online Dating Mistakes You Should Avoid Doing!
- Luck doesn’t necessarily have much to do with making a great relationship when you are dating online.
- There are lots of things that you can do right and even more that you can do wrong.
- If you really want your online friendship to turn into a real and romantic relationship, you need to follow some guidelines.
- The first one is that if you are going to post a picture of yourself or send a picture to an online friend, make it a picture of you and not some really beautiful/handsome friend.
- Sooner or later you might meet this person and the truth will come out anyway. So be honest. Don’t describe yourself as thin and 5’3” or really ‘buff” and 6’1” unless that is true.
- When you make a date to chat online or talk on the phone, be there and be there on time.
- You need to put forth the effort to keep the relationship going, too. If you don’t, the other person will soon lose interest and move on.
- Make your conversations interesting and realistic. Don’t just joke around and make “cute” remarks.
- Find interests you have in common like music or movies. You’ll need to get around to talking about goals and values.
Pay attention. You can learn a lot about a person’s views on love, respect and commitment.
- Don’t expect to find Mr. or Miss PERFECT. They do not exist.
- All humans are flawed, the point is to find ones with flaws you can accept, It’s the little quirks and idiosyncrasies that make each of us different and interesting.
- Rushing into any relationship is always a mistake, take your time.
- Get to know the person well enough that you feel comfortable and at ease when talking to them and really hate to see a conversation end.
- Then, and only then, will you be ready to meet them in person and take your relationship to another level, you need to be the best of friends before you can be in love.
John Burns
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